She is having a wild ride in emotions throughout the month and her and the family are maybe starting to walk on eggshells around her. Her friendships are becoming more complex and she is beginning to be more interested in romantic relationships (how do you even begin to talk about s-e-x?!)
Your little girl is definitely now a little woman! You are worried she doesn't need you anymore but remember how much you needed your mum as a teen and want to be there for her.
🖤 Relying on her school and teachers to give her the necessary educational information (on average schools teach TWO lessons on menstrual cycles a year and are still teaching puberty using books from 1990);
🖤 Hoping she will just stay your little girl forever so it isnt uncomfortable for you to talk to her about it;
🖤 Giving your daughter a puberty book, first period kit or mindfulness journal and thinking she'll come to you if she needs you, or;
🖤 Banning your daughter from boys, social media, short skirts and innapropriate films hoping that will stop her accessing harmful material/experiences. It is also not...
🖤 Late night binging of online how-to videos + reading a few books on gentle parenting and attempting to practise this with your not so gentle adolescent daughter (as she rolls her eyes at you) WITHOUT accessing contextual and personalised support for you and your family. You're girl aint the same as that Mormon TikTok moms...
Instead? It's intentionally creating a personalised puberty blueprint to follow.
With simple + effective tools you can easily access to suit YOUR FAMILY; to practice in the calm days and then rely on in the busy days (when your teen has come home crying after a hard day at school and dinner hasn't been made yet).
(p.s. HOW you can use gentle-parenting techniques for your daughter to really thrive in this phase of her life comes later).
Ultimately?
At Femme School we know the importance of eldership and belonging during this transitional phase. We deeply believe young women need and deserve dignity to learn and be lead from their mothers and the woman who have walked before them.
Our approach is centred in relationships between women of all ages with the responsibility on adult women to 'go first'. To learn + re-learn the qualities required to courageously lead our younger women along the path.
The mothers of adolescent girls who lead this path down the Portal of Puberty feel both a deepening + broadening relationship with their daughters.
From confidently discussing the many hormonal effects of the female reproductive system (such as periods, fertility, discharge etc) to supporting their girls with platonic and romantic relationship challenges, fighting the insidious effects of negative body image/social media and helping them stay true to their hearts in a world that asks them to 'fit in'.
I created Femme School as a deeply needed alternate approach to supporting women as early as possible. To reduce the risk of all too common sexual and reproductive trauma stemming from a lack of body autonomy and female sovereignty.
AND (even more importantly), to equip women with the resources they need to live connected, healthy and creative lives that centre their desires, joy and right to choose.
Because here is the thing;
Starting now and intentionally choosing to create a healthy and mature relationship with your girl as she grows up will be the basis upon which you experience the rest of your lives as mother and daughter.
It will not only determine how connected, honest, vulnerable and safe you can both be together but will also educate and resource your daughter with the knowledge, qualities and inner resources she needs to enjoy other healthy relationships (romantic, career, her own children etc) and thrive later in life.
The goal? To stop hoping for your girl to have an 'easy' transition into puberty, hoping for her teachers or TikTok to give her the puberty education she needs, hoping for struggles to go away, and instead be educated, pro-active and ready to confidently guide her into puberty.
How we will do it? An evidence based, pragmatic and simple approach to parenting your daughter through puberty that centres her dignity through education AND your mother-daughter relationship through vulnerability and connection.
Puberty Audit
- Curiously examine what you and your daughter already know about puberty with our age-appropriate checklist so you know what she still needs to find out.
- Check off the puberty symptoms your daughter is already showing so you can locate her inside her own Portal of Puberty map.
Period Prep 101
- Discover what Menarche is and the importance of this first milestone in entering puberty so she can feel initiated into womanhood.
- Learn the monthly hormonal shifts so you can support the physical, emotional and spiritual effects in your girl.
- Using the Femme School sensory toolkit, create a Period Prep kit for your daughter so you both can honour her comfort + safety by acknowledging her unique bleeding needs.
Body Image Calculator
- Learn Femme School's 10-2-1 method for helping your girl think critically against patriarchal beauty standards so she can question harmful negative body image narratives.
- Define a family dictionary of words/phrases that are sooo basic/ded/2023 (aka not going to be used anymore because of their negative affect on body image) so you can centre dignity and safety in the relationship with your girl. P.S. we can take no responsibility for the eye rolls you will receive by trying to use teen lingo 🤣
- Understand how the adolescent brain detaches from the family unit to attach to the friend-ship (and why this matters so much to her!) so you can stop taking it so personally when she tells you about the amazing advice she heard from someone else... that you gave her first!!!
- Learn Femme School's 'map and key' technique to navigating the stormy waters of teenage friendships so you can be her safety buoy amongst the waves.
The Social Scene
- Define limits so you can encourage your daughter to cultivate a healthy relationship with social media.
- Confidently implement technology boundaries (that feel fun, fair and not arbitrary) so you aren't a regular mom you are a cool mum (who has cool mum boundaries).
Bonus Live Celebration
Your Girls's Portal of Puberty
- You'll also get a juicy bonus session to big picture map out your girls personalised Portal of Puberty (including a visualisation meditation on your maturing relationship) so that you leave My Girl with a clear blueprint to follow.
- Plus, a special toast to acknowledge and celebrate you and your daughters loving, connected and open relationship.
Puberty Audit
- Curiously examine what you and your daughter already know about puberty with our age-appropriate checklist so you know what she still needs to find out.
- Check off the puberty symptoms your daughter is already showing so you can locate her inside her own Portal of Puberty map.
Period Prep 101
- Discover what Menarche is and the importance of this first milestone in entering puberty so she can feel initiated into womanhood.
- Learn the monthly hormonal shifts so you can support the physical, emotional and spiritual effects in your girl.
- Using the Femme School sensory toolkit, create a Period Prep kit for your daughter so you both can honour her comfort + safety by acknowledging her unique bleeding needs.
The Body Image Calculator
- Learn Femme School's 10-2-1 method for helping your girl think critically against patriarchal beauty standards so she can question harmful negative body image narratives.
- Define a family dictionary of words/phrases that are sooo basic/ded/2023 (aka not going to be used anymore because of their negative affect on body image) so you can centre dignity and safety in the relationship with your girl. P.S. we can take no responsibility for the eye rolls you will receive by trying to use teen lingo 🤣
The Friend-Ship
- Understand how the adolescent brain detaches from the family unit to attach to the friend-ship (and why this matters so much to her!) so you can stop taking it so personally when she tells you about the amazing advice she heard from someone else... that you gave her first!!!
- Learn Femme School's 'map and key' technique to navigating the stormy waters of teenage friendships so you can be her safety buoy amongst the waves.
The Social Scene
- Define limits soyou can encourage your daughter to cultivate a healthy relationship with social media.
- Confidently implement technology boundaries (that feel fun, fair and not arbitrary) so you aren't a regular mom you are a cool mum (who has cool mum boundaries).
Bonus Live Celebration
Your Girls's Portal of Puberty
- You'll also get a juicy bonus session to big picture map out your girls personalised Portal of Puberty (including a visualisation meditation on your maturing relationship) so that you leave My Girl with a clear blueprint to follow.
- Plus, a special toast to acknowledge and celebrate you and your daughters loving, connected and open relationship.
- Lesson Drops Over Five Weeks — Five LIVE short but thought-provoking lessons to help you create your positive puberty blueprint. [Value £299]
- Accompanying Workbook — Step-by-step digital workbook with simple, actionable exercises to complete to personalise your puberty blueprint [Value £199]
- Private Community — Access to a PRIVATE Community with Your Mother Bleeders for the duration of the FREE Program [Value Priceless]
- Crystal Clear Clarity — How to prepare your adolescent girl through puberty so you don't have to google endless blogposts or rely on outdated school education (this is the most important work you will ever do for your adolescent daughter).
| Mums of young girls a few years from entering puberty |
| Mums of girls about to enter or entering puberty: |
| Dads and Other Guardians For Girls entering puberty: |
You aren't an old-school, scared of periods, leave it to mum she knows best kinda dad... you are a cool dad!
| Mums of young girls a few years from entering puberty: |
- You are conscious of feeling prepared as early as possible.
- You know there is a LOT to learn and you want to begin using positive language and fostering a positive body image now!
- You are interested in 'gentle parenting' and are looking for simple, pragmatic and effective resources for parenting your little girl.
| Mums of girls about to enter or entering puberty: |
You also notice:
Your daughter is physically showing signs of entering (or has obviously already entered) puberty such as:
- Budding breasts
- Pubic hair
- Discharge in her underwear
- Periods
You are experiencing effects of your daughters emotional changes at home such as:
- Friendship struggles
- Eye rolls, huffs and puffs, agitation where there used to be none
- Embarrasment and/or refusal to engage in personal hygiene/care like using deoderant
| Dads and Guardian for Girls entering puberty: |
or
You aren't a grandmother, auntie, teacher who is going to get caught out not having a period product for their girl or getting squeamish talking about the phsyical changes of puberty... you are a Guardian for Girls!
You want to take the mother load of the mother of your girls and make sure you are juts as involved in caring for your daughter (or young girl you love and care for!).
You know it is super important for your young girl to have eldership and feel safe growing into herself as she grows through puberty so you want to be educated, conscious and prepared to support her through this next life transition.